“Its funny how sometimes the people you’d take a bullet for, are the ones behind the trigger.”
I think we all, at some point of our lives, encountered the experience of the Friendly Enemy.
Some people call them hypocrites, fakers, two-faced, Judas, turncoats,
best friends. Unfortunately, I’m one of those people who believed that it wasn’t nearly possible for a friend to be backstabbing.
My story begins like any other naive teenager who looked for her identity in this world that suddenly appears to be too big, too scary. We suddenly feel the need of an anchor, someone to be our ally and confess in them all of our dirty little secrets, feel like they matter, like we matter. I trusted wholly, became even emotionally and socially dependent, on that one anchor. And it ends up being a typical story of the backstabbing friend who changes drastically in the time span of a year. Then slowly, you learn things that the friend did behind your back, that the friend said behind your back during the time when you’d give up anything for them.
It’s not a sad story when you realize that you’re stronger from that experience. Of course, you feel stupid for having trusted them but at that time I guess they were actually genuine. With time people just reveal who they are, and who they are going to be the rest of their lives. That’s what adolescence is meant for: finding yourself. And I’m glad I grew up right. At least, I think I did. We never really find ourselves and I’m sure that hypocrite hasn’t found herself yet, at least I hope for her. But still, our choices make us who we are. Our actions make us who we are. So, if you choose to strip yourself in front of a webcam while the crush of your ‘best friend’ is eagerly scrutinizing every inch of your naked body, that only makes you an easy hussy with a serious lack of self-esteem. I’m
Friendly Enemies come back to you like parasites. When they see that their actions brought them nothing but regret and loneliness they come back to the people they hurt with a smile as if they did nothing wrong, thinking that the more genuine their smile appears, the easier they’ll be accepted back. The thing is, we’re not all as easy as they think we are.
Friendly enemies do not care about you. They just care about being listened, surrounded, admired. They proudly say that they do not need anyone. They’re like bees, going from flower to flower, taking away their pollen (in this case: information) and put that pollen in another gullible flower.
Knowledge is power. And Friendly Enemies know that very well. They acquire the maximum of information from the maximum of people and know that knowing about those people mean that they have an influence, a control over their actions. They know people depend on them.
Friendly Enemies like criticizing people above all. You may feel privileged at times, but keep in mind that if they are able to talk sh*t on people, they are very much able to talk sh*t about you. I want to make an appeal to all those girls and boys and hermaphrodites out there who trust someone deeply: THE ONLY ONE YOU CAN TRUST ENTIRELY IS YOURSELF. You may trust some people a lot, but never, ever, ever do it 100%. 99.9% is okay. You never know who may turn out being untrustworthy.
Fortunately, there’s that wonderful thing called Karma 🙂
Friendly Enemies often do not last long in a group of friends, because eventually the group will realize that there’s a hypocrite lurking around, judging, talking behind people’s back to the same people they talked about, behind their back. The most gratifying thing is seeing them alone. I know I sound mean, but after all they did, I just have to be satisfied.
The world isn’t perfect, the people even less.
Nevertheless, despite the existence of Friendly Enemies, I think we all should focus on the bright side of things. There ARE true friends out there, and it isn’t your fault if you happen to fall on the wrong ones. Eventually you’ll find someone who’ll be worth your secrets, your confidence, your affection and even love. People are not bad, they just choose to be. And you are smart if you make smart choices. Friends are wonderful. They are another crazy, smarter, incredible, sensible version of you.
Friendly enemies may be horrible to people, but they may be hypocrites because of reasons we do not know. Maybe they are just depressed, lonely or have issues at home. Some of them may feel like they do not fit and are scared of completely trusting someone, so they’d rather have people trust them and then they hurt them before being hurt themselves. Justifying their actions is not a good thing, i know, but well, I can’t help but hope that people are not as bad as they seem to be. Just like people are not as good as they seem to be.
there is a balance in everything, the only thing that makes a difference is the choice that you make.